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Long-Distance Relationships: The Good and the Bad

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I am excited to be a co-host again today with #LoveBlog2017. Today’s prompt is Distance. If you would like to join, details are at the bottom of this post.

The Mister and I have had LOTS of ups and downs in our 15 years together. Sickness, family deaths, job loss, cross-country moving just to name a few. But, those things pale in comparison to the seven years we were in a long-distance relationship. During our long-distance relationship we saw each other as often as every other weekend to as infrequently as once every six months.

I have said that our time in a long-distance relationship was the “best and worst time in our relationship.” If you’ve ever been in a long-distance relationship, I think you can agree with that sentiment.

Here are some ways that long-distance relationships can be both good and bad.

The Bad

Loneliness Is VERY Real
If you have a bad day, sometimes all you want and need is a hug from your significant other but you can’t hug them because you don’t live near each other. It’s also a very crappy feeling knowing your significant other is sad or lonely and you can’t do anything about it.

Scheduling is a Bitch
People are generally ALWAYS busy, it’s hard to fit everything you want and need to do, but it’s extra complicated when that thing is someone you love. This is where determination, loyalty and communication come into play because it’s also important to make them a priority.

Different Rules Apply
In a regular relationship you can usually get away with not being fully engaged with your significant other but when you’re in a long-distance relationship, when you’re together or talking on the phone you must be fully engaged because that’s all you have.

The Good

You Are Forced To Communicate Well
In a long-distance relationship you have nothing to do most of the time except talk to each other. In the process, you learn to connect on a deeper level and communicate well.

You Make More Memories
When you’re in a long-distance relationship you put more effort into making your time together special—you’re more likely to try new and exciting things because you want to remember your time together when you’re apart.

Time For Yourself
Wanting to spend every spare minute on Facetime isn’t bad but being in a long-distance relationship gives you the time to also focus on yourself, whether it’s a hobby or time to spend with your friends and family.

All relationships have great parts and not-so great parts but that doesn’t mean that with a bit of communication and trust you can’t make your long-distance relationship an awesome one.

So tell me, have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? What would you add to my list? Would you ever try a long-distance relationship if you had to?


Brita from Belle Brita

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Brita Long is the pink and sparkly personality behind the Christian feminist lifestyle blog, Belle Brita. While her first love will always be Paris, she lives happily with her husband Daniel Fleck in the Atlanta area.

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Elyse blogs about marriage, Vancouver-living, books and everything in between. She’s a legal assistant by day and an avid reader and blogaholic by night. She’s obsessed with Mexican food, the Toronto Blue Jays and true crime shows.

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 Today’s prompt is Love Languages. Read the whole prompt list! Mandatory rules are bolded. The other rules are optional. Use this link-up to meet new bloggers! Each daily link-up is open for 72 hours.
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13 thoughts on “Long-Distance Relationships: The Good and the Bad

  1. I think the best thing about our long distant relationship is that we got to know each other SO well. When all you can do is talk on the phone, you talk about everything!

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  2. Yep! I agree (with you and Chelsea above). We were in a long distance relationship for a long time because K worked in the next state over and then I went off to college. We got to see one another a lot (fortunately), but it was tough. It definitely improved our communication skills and helped with developing our personalities and interests individually.

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  3. Agreed! Communication in person is easy. Communicating via technology is harder. My sister and I have had to relearn communication ever since she moved 800 miles away. We fight a lot because of misunderstandings. You don’t realize these things when you are close to someone. It’s made us work harder and look at things differently.

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  4. Our LDR didn’t seem that difficult because we started that way. Aside from a handful of dates in 2 1/2 weeks, the first year of dating/relationship was long-distance. What was much harder was being long-distance for about six weeks during our first year of marriage. Dan moved to Georgia before I did. After having lived together, being apart was awful! I binge-watched SO much Netflix!

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  5. You were long distance for SEVEN YEARS?! Holy crapppp. That’s so long! My husband and I dated long distance for about a year and a half because of college and it was so rough, but you DEFINITELY learn to communicate effectively!

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