Homemaking In The Modern World

Confession: I’ve had this in my drafts folder since the summer, but I was apprehensive about posting it because I was afraid someone would take away my feminist card. I think with recent events, it’s even scarier, but I’m okay with a bit of controversy. Let it be known that I don’t cook in my house. Oh sure, I occassionally pour my cereal and milk for breakfast but The Mister makes 99.9% of our meals. June Cleaver, I am not.

Homemaking is defined as the creation and management of a home, especially as a pleasant place to live. I don’t know about you, but for some reason I thought that maybe the dictionary definition was going to be more offensive, but I am pleasantly surprised. During my year of intentional living, I’m trying to step up my game of taking care of the home, which has always been neglected when things become busy, which is basically like, every day.

In today’s world, life is crazy. Meals are eaten on the couch while watching tv and scrolling through our phones, cleaning your house sometimes means throwing everything into one room and closing the door because there are other priorities. Gone are the June Cleaver’s of the world, but isn’t there a way to bridge that outdated version of what a homemaker is and what a modern person or family is?

Why should we care about homemaking?
Presumably, if you’re reading this it’s because you live in a home. That should be reason enough. Everyone deserves to live in a nice and pleasant place that they enjoy going to and really that’s what homemaking is really about. The second part of homemaking to me also means nurturing the relationships that are in the home.

What should homemaking look like in the modern world?
Just my opinion obviously, but to expand on my definition of homemaking, here are some points on how homemaking should look like in the modern world.

  • It means healthy balanced meals made at home, eaten together without the television on.
  • It means keeping up with the household chores that if a friend drops by unexpectedly, you aren’t embarrassed by the clean laundry hanging out on your couch for the past four days because you are too busy to put them away.
  • It means a safe place free from ridicule or harassment for children and adults.
  • It means being able to sew on a button or hem a pair of pants so that you don’t have to spend the extra $5 to have someone else do it.
  • It means being a good steward of your money that you’ve earned by knowing how to balance a budget, or know how to save for retirement.
  • It means being able to put in as much money as you can afford and using your own hands to make your house beautiful, inside and out.
  • It means turning the phones off more and interacting with the people that live in the home.
  • It means knowing how to grow fruits, vegetables and herbs for food because the transportation of food is killing our planet.

I wouldn’t want to go back in time, but I think taking some of the ideas from times past and making them work in today’s modern world along with realizing that it’s vital that everyone pitches in is the key to happy and healthy home for everyone.

So tell me, do you agree that homemaking is still relevant in today’s world? How are you a great homemaker? What are some ways you can improve in homemaking? Would you take away my feminist card? 

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23 thoughts on “Homemaking In The Modern World

  1. I think that these are all valid and reasonable things to want for a home! I agree that we could all turn off our phones more. I really need to work on that.

    Sidenote: my hubby does most of our cooking too. He’s good at it and enjoys it and me… not so much!


  2. Ha- I think your feminist card is safe. I consider myself a strong feminist but I willing admit that I take care of nearly ALL the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. K actually pays for most of our meals while we’re out. Traditional roles aside, that’s just how we work. When I need K to change the laundry or fry up some chicken he does it. And sometimes I pick up the check to treat him. (Lol, keeping in mind our money mostly comes from the same place. Ha.) What irks me is when my family makes comments about how a “good wife” would make her husband pudding when he wants it. No…. a good wife would get the mix if she’s at the store but my husband is 100% capable of mixing milk and powder. (GRRR.)

    Anyway… homemaking to me is similar to your definition. We eat most of our meals at the table with no TV or phone. (Even the Taco Bell we spontaneously got last night.) To me and our home, homemaking is letting the dogs snuggle in the bed, walking around in sweatpants and a t-shirt, feeling happy and cozy in any room we choose to relax in 🙂


    1. I love that you eat all your meals at your table without tv or phone! It’s something we’re working on. For the most part we’re really good at it but if we get takeout it usually means we have our heads in our phones and eating our food but if we have a homemade meal somehow it’s easy to keep our heads out of our phones. I think you’ve got a great system that works for you, K and the dogs!


  3. I totally agree with what you said in this post! We have one tv in our house, in the family room, which is downstairs from the kitchen. We don’t have one in our kitchen or our bedroom, and we eat all our meals together at the kitchen table. Maybe that’s old-fashioned, but it’s how I grew up and it’s what I want for my family! My husband and I split a lot of duties, and he does SO MUCH (car stuff, pays the bills, etc) to make my life easier, so I see the opportunity to make dinner and wash and have a calm, clean home as an opportunity to do the same for him! Although I would like to hire a maid to clean the bathrooms! 🙂


    1. I love how good you’re with eating meals together at the kitchen table. We grew up similar in that way but in my household now we get lazy and sometimes eat meals with the tv on.


  4. Girl I agree with this so much! Like I get that we shouldn’t only stick to old gender roles. But there’s nothing wrong with keeping a home! And everybody living in that home should contribute to that!


  5. I end up doing a lot more of the “homemaking” stuff in our house because I have more time to do so. But there are some things that I have happily passed on to my husband or that we share responsibility on, because marriage is full of teamwork.


    1. It’s great you’ve got a great system handling everything. I like cleaning a lot too but I hate cooking so our system of him cooking and me cleaning works for us.


  6. ohhh this is a super interesting topic! when i think “homemaking” i totally think of some oppressive definition too. i found now that we are in a house especially, i absolutely MUST wake up to a clean kitchen or i feel frazzled. that’s my first new homemaking task is that we divide and conquer a clean kitchen each night.


    1. I’m so glad you chimed in, Chelsea! I love that you clean the kitchen together. It’s funny the quirks that happen overnight when you’re in a new situation. We usually divide and conquer together on Sundays but the day-to-day cleaning is usually spent separately cleaning. I hope that makes sense.


  7. I love home-making! I think there is nothing wrong with making an effort to create an inviting atmosphere for family and friends. And I must say, I would do my best to create that atmosphere even if I lived alone! I find that a clean tablecloth, freshly ground coffee, and a simple breakfast really gets my creative juices flowing in the morning. I look forward to having a bit of me-time every day, but if the house is cluttered, then my mind is cluttered too…


  8. Good to hear I’m not the only one that still thinks about home. It’s different now that our daughter has moved out. My husband also cooks (he’s good at it) and he’s retired and I”m not yet. We still have a 3 bedroom house which comes in handy when you need your own space 🙂
    I agree with many of your definitions – living within your means, being independent, etc – but I’m perfectly comfortable eating dinner in front of the tv with my husband. We’ll eat Thanksgiving tomorrow at the table but that’s rare these days.


      1. I use to be the only cook when we were both working, except for the barbecue/grill which hes always done. Once he retired he volunteered to take over the weeknight dinner. I still cook on the weekend. He misses my cooking.

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