Confession: I’ve had this in my drafts folder since the summer, but I was apprehensive about posting it because I was afraid someone would take away my feminist card. I think with recent events, it’s even scarier, but I’m okay with a bit of controversy. Let it be known that I don’t cook in my house. Oh sure, I occassionally pour my cereal and milk for breakfast but The Mister makes 99.9% of our meals. June Cleaver, I am not.
Homemaking is defined as the creation and management of a home, especially as a pleasant place to live. I don’t know about you, but for some reason I thought that maybe the dictionary definition was going to be more offensive, but I am pleasantly surprised. During my year of intentional living, I’m trying to step up my game of taking care of the home, which has always been neglected when things become busy, which is basically like, every day.
In today’s world, life is crazy. Meals are eaten on the couch while watching tv and scrolling through our phones, cleaning your house sometimes means throwing everything into one room and closing the door because there are other priorities. Gone are the June Cleaver’s of the world, but isn’t there a way to bridge that outdated version of what a homemaker is and what a modern person or family is?
Why should we care about homemaking?
Presumably, if you’re reading this it’s because you live in a home. That should be reason enough. Everyone deserves to live in a nice and pleasant place that they enjoy going to and really that’s what homemaking is really about. The second part of homemaking to me also means nurturing the relationships that are in the home.
What should homemaking look like in the modern world?
Just my opinion obviously, but to expand on my definition of homemaking, here are some points on how homemaking should look like in the modern world.
- It means healthy balanced meals made at home, eaten together without the television on.
- It means keeping up with the household chores that if a friend drops by unexpectedly, you aren’t embarrassed by the clean laundry hanging out on your couch for the past four days because you are too busy to put them away.
- It means a safe place free from ridicule or harassment for children and adults.
- It means being able to sew on a button or hem a pair of pants so that you don’t have to spend the extra $5 to have someone else do it.
- It means being a good steward of your money that you’ve earned by knowing how to balance a budget, or know how to save for retirement.
- It means being able to put in as much money as you can afford and using your own hands to make your house beautiful, inside and out.
- It means turning the phones off more and interacting with the people that live in the home.
- It means knowing how to grow fruits, vegetables and herbs for food because the transportation of food is killing our planet.
I wouldn’t want to go back in time, but I think taking some of the ideas from times past and making them work in today’s modern world along with realizing that it’s vital that everyone pitches in is the key to happy and healthy home for everyone.
So tell me, do you agree that homemaking is still relevant in today’s world? How are you a great homemaker? What are some ways you can improve in homemaking? Would you take away my feminist card?