Life is busy. That’s a fact. But, it’s not an excuse to be lazy in your marriage. We’ve been married for 2 years and we’ve experienced already MANY different seasons of joy, sadness and everything in between. Right now, we’re in a period of joy but also uncertainty. We’ve made the big move which is awesome, but now we’re planning on what’s next, even though we literally have no idea what’s going to be next. Of course, we’re dreaming and hoping but dreams and hopes don’t always pan out. That’s reality, so there’s uncertainty, which can put strain on a marriage but we’re committed to keeping our marriage strong.
In my A-Z of a Happy Marriage posts, I mention 26 different things to keep your marriage strong but honestly? It can really be summed up in about 5 things to keep your marriage strong no matter what comes.
Here are some ways that we’ve kept our marriage strong through 15 years together:
Incorporate our love languages into every day life.
Knowing and using our love languages has been HUGE for our relationship. It actually feels easy to love someone because we know this little “secret” about each other. For him, nothing beats cuddling on the couch watching a movie because his main love languages are Physical Touch and Quality Time. For me, it’s sweet love notes, “I love you” texts and handmade cards that make me swoon. It’s easy to make us feel loved because we know this. If you don’t know your love language, go here. It’ll make a world of difference.
Encourage each other.
This is literally my favourite part about being married. I love being able to cheer The Mister on in whatever he endeavours to do. It doesn’t take much, it’s just a few sincere words and it can make a world of difference.
Sharing our feelings.
This can be a scary thing if you haven’t been in a serious relationship, but I think this is vital to keep a marriage strong. Sharing your feelings, your thoughts, negativity and positivity can make a whole world of difference in how you connect with each other.
I will literally shout this from the rooftops. You MUST take time out from everything to focus on each other. If you neglect it, you shouldn’t be surprised that your marriage is suffering.
Continue to learn about each other’s quirks and needs.
Quirks and needs are always changing, it’s important to be connected to each other so that you can notice your spouse’s needs change over a lifetime.
They say “laughter is the best medicine” and for marriages it’s so vital! Even when things aren’t going well, it’s necessary to be able to laugh. It won’t cure all your problems, but it will make you feel like you can make it through them together. Trust me on this one.
If it seems impossible to keep your marriage strong through seasons of life, don’t fear! It’s really simple. Keeping your marriage a priority and doing a few simple things is the key to MANY years of marital bliss.
So tell me, if you’re married, what are some ways you and your spouse keep your marriage strong in every season? What tips to do you have? What small things make a world of difference for you and your spouse?