We did it! We made it through the entire alphabet! You can check out the rest of the series by clicking here or go to the ‘A to Z Marriage Series’ page above.
Don’t worry this isn’t about ‘keeping sweet’. I won’t ever advocate that but I will always advocate for not badmouthing your spouse in front of others, and that’s what this post is about.
I’m hardly perfect and I do fall into the trap of bad-mouthing The Mister when others are doing the same with their husbands but I do try to only say nice things.
To me, there are times when you may feel the need to vent in marriage. It’s 100% okay to vent but you don’t have to bad-mouth your spouse in the process.
Realizing the importance of not talking badly about your spouse is important. The last thing you ever want to do is talk badly about your spouse in front of family, friends or even strangers. For one thing, it’s not a nice thing to do. For another, if the tables were turned, how would you feel if they bad-mouthed you to others? The golden rule 100% applies here. My rule is, if I wouldn’t do it to a best friend, I won’t do it to The Mister.
Certainly, no marriage is without its flaws and no spouse is without his or her flaws. Occasionally venting to a best friend about how much your spouse drives you crazy is natural. But constantly using passive aggressive language to point them out in front of others is entirely different. Ultimately it will negatively impact your relationship and affect the way others perceive you. Most people find it annoying to be in the constant company of negativity.
This seems logical but deserves to be said, the best rule of thumb to follow when you have complaints is to talk directly to your spouse about them first. If you have a close friend or family member that you need to bounce things off of – that is fine! But keep in mind that you chose your spouse and took vows to love them in good times and bad.
Always speak highly of your spouse no matter what the circumstances may be, because karma can be a very real thing!
So tell me, do you speak positively about your spouse to your parents, friends and strangers? What do you do when a couple is speaking badly about each other to you?