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Don’t worry, this isn’t about sex. I am not talking about my sex life or anyone elses sex life on this blog, so now that we’ve gotten that out-of-the-way, let’s get started!
Has your marriage become boring and dull? Do you feel more like roommates and less like spouses’. It’s 100% normal to become comfortable with each other as your relationship progresses. It shouldn’t be normal though to lose that ‘spark’ you had when you first started dating.
Bonds mature over time, like a marriage. The bond you feel with your spouse is different than when you first met each other. Excitement and discovery are replaced by comfort and depth. – Gary Vaynerchuk
The Mister and I haven’t really struggled with keeping the excitement in our relationship even after 15 years. I chalk it up to being best friends, having date nights but I’m not sure we’ve actually been tested. I think the biggest test will be when we have kids and it feels like we literally have no time for each other.
Here are some of the ways that The Mister and I personally ‘keep the spark’ in our relationship.
1. Date nights
2. Doing new to both of us activities together.
3. Holding hands, kissing each other in public.
4. Exercise together.
Some other ways to ‘keep the spark’ in your relationship.
1. Watch a scary movie together.
2. Do something that terrifies you both – skydiving, bungee jumping, paragliding.
3. Couples competition, like a bowling league.
One of the many reasons why relationships get boring is because couples fall into routines and stop doing exciting things together. However, making the time for a new or exciting activity done together can have you feeling amazing about each other. So bring a little excitement into your date nights and everyday life and you might just find the passion for your spouse revived as well!
So tell me, have their been significant times in your relationship when you feel like you haven’t been excited about your spouse or your relationship? How did you change it? Do you do any of these things to keep the excitement in your relationship?