A to Z of a Happy Marriage

Trust

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If you’ve ever read ANY sort of relationship advice they tell you that there are 3 aspects that comprise a good relationship – communication, respect and trust. It’s 100% true. They are literally the foundation of any relationship everything else are the enhancers!

“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” – Ernest Hemingway

The Mister and I have definitely had times in our relationship where our trust has been tested. We’ve done the long distance relationship thing during high school and college but there never was any drama because we’ve always had the foundation of trust in our relationship.

Keeping the trust in a relationship takes work – patience and communication and everything else that goes with the relationship but it’s not impossible.

Here are some simple ways to keep the trust in your relationship:

1. Keep your promises
I think this is a no brainer but still needs to be said. If you’re going to do something – do it. If you say you’re going to stop doing something – stop doing it.

2. Secrets told in confidence should stay that way
If your spouse tells you something in confidence, don’t go blabbing about it to your best friend the next time you see them. Only say something when and if they give you permission.

3. Be reliable
If you say you’re going to be home at a certain time, don’t get sidetracked and not come home in time.

4. Respect each others boundaries
Keeping trust means respecting boundaries and not testing them unless both of you are willing.

Just like all relationships – marriage, friendship and family, the ability to trust another person needs real effort both ways. It needs time and some proof that the other person can be trusted. That is why it is important to remember to be conscious of how trust will be built and kept in your relationship.

So tell me, do you find it easy to trust your spouse? Why or why not? What would you add to my list in order to keep the trust in relationships?

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6 thoughts on “Trust

  1. Lack or communication is a pet peeve of mine and respect is sometimes earned and loss (though hopefully not in a relationship…), but trust is SO big with me. Once my trust is broken it’s almost impossible to repair it. Fortunately, my husband and I are 100% honest about everything. I trust him completely- and it’s been put to the test. I think something that goes hand-in-hand with trust for me a loyalty. I really value loyalty and K knows that.

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    1. I’m exactly the same way – once my trust is broken it rarely can be earned back because I do put a lot of stock in loyalty too. Honesty is always the best policy in a relationship, I think – without it, you don’t have anything really!

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  2. oh this is SUCH an important one for any and all relationships but especially marriage. my husband and i often talk about this and how grateful we are to truly and fully 100% trust each other. i never ever worry that something will happen when he travels or that he isn’t being honest with telling me something. SO grateful for that.

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    1. It’s always awesome when you can trust each other 100% especially since your husband does travel so often. It would be impossible to relax while he was away without it!

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  3. My husband attended a tank conference last year. He convinced his job to send him to it, but by the time he booked it, the hotel was full. Our friends from Ohio who are also tank engineers were going too, and one of them had a room with two queen beds. She offered up her second bed for Dan, who accepted. I had zero problem with my husband sharing a hotel room with our mutual female friend. I trust him completely. (I trust her too!).

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