On the eve of a weekend spent in my hometown, one of those evenings being spent with my best friend I am reminded that having a best friend is awesome. What’s even more awesome is that marriage for both of us hasn’t changed our relationship. Oh sure, we see each other less but that’s more about proximity than marital status. It takes some work to make sure you maintain your place as one of the girls, but it’s not that hard.
I read a lot of marriage blogs that seem to say when you’re married you lose your best friends but I don’t think it needs to be that way. Oh sure, life gets busy and we spend months without seeing each other but having a best friend who isn’t my husband(although he is ALSO my best friend) is awesome!
Here are some perks to keeping your best friend when you get married:
You can never have too many people on your side cheering you on. That is a fact. You’ve also most likely gone through some heavy things like breakups that give them valuable experience in dealing with what you need when you need some cheering up.
Sometimes you just need someone to tell you to ‘get over yourself’ and it always seems more palatable when it comes from a best friend.
3. Easiest Form of Self-Care
Having a ladies night out (or in!) is a simple way to fill your bucket and keep the love going in other aspects of your life, like your marriage.
Just like marriages, our friendships require a little effort at times. It’s not easy but our friendships can and are a meaningful part in most people’s lives that you shouldn’t have to give up just because you’re married!
So tell me, do you have a best friend that isn’t your spouse? Why or why not? Do you think it’s important to maintain those friendships after marriage?