Importance of Self-Care in Marriage

Importance of Self-Care in Marriage
If you asked me 4 years ago what I like to do for self-care, I would have said I don’t do anything because I’m not selfish. So it’s no surprise that taking care of me fell down on the priority list. So what changed for me? One simple quote, “When you respect yourself, you respect your body.” A lightbulb went off.

As a result of making time for self-care activities, you feel happier and more positive which allows you to have a more positive reaction to your spouse, kids or boss. When you’re taking care of yourself you can give more to the ones you love. Period. Taking time out to care for yourself can remind others that you and your needs are important, too. Having a well-cared-for body can make you feel good about yourself and your life, this contributes to a feeling of well-being.

Here’s some simple things you can do that shouldn’t burden your spouse and don’t cost a ton of money so there is literally NO excuses for you to not be doing at least one of them regularly.

1. Take a nap.
2. Meditate.
3. Take a bubble bath.
4. Read a book.
5. Do a homemade face or hair mask.
6. Have a ‘duvet day’.
7. Call a friend.
8. Break out the adult colouring books!
9. Take a walk in nature.
10. Get a manicure.

Make a list of all the things you love to do including things or activities you have been wanting to do for a while and MAKE TIME for them. I try to do something once a week for myself but you do what works for you. Depending on your personality self-care will look different, maybe you just need time alone, or maybe you need time with friends or maybe you need a relaxing activity like a massage. Whatever it is, just DO it! Others will thank you for taking care of yourself.

So tell me, do you do self-care? Why or why not? How has that impacted your marriage? What types of things do you like to do for self-care?


10 thoughts on “Importance of Self-Care in Marriage

  1. I love this. I got married on August 1 of last year and I have always been adamant about my husband and I taking a little me time every now and again. We have been together for 10 years so i think it has been working well to say the least. Cheers to the married life.

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  2. If I’m not taking care of myself usually I don’t feel good physically or emotionally. And that can cause me to be grumpy and short with my husband, which is affects our marriage. This is a good reminder to take of myself too.


    1. So true, Jessy! When I’m feeling selfish about taking time for myself I always remember the airplane analogy, you put your mask on first before securing others.


  3. so glad you are making this a priority nowadays because it absolutely does do wonders (especially for those around you)! i am grateful that i learned early on about “Self-care” since i studied social work beginning at 18 so it was a big topic since there is such high burn out in that profession. it’s interesting to see it change and right now a bubble bath seems like the best thing evvver. i plan on squeezing a bunch of shampoo into the (mildly-warm) water since i have no supplies but YAY!

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    1. That’s great that you learned about self-care early on and it’s great that you mentioned that self-care can and does change all the time depending on what YOU need at that moment. It doesn’t have to stay the same all the time.


  4. Self-care is so important so you don’t wear yourself out. My husband and I try to relax with a bubble bath at least once a week. It’s good for me because sometimes I forget to stop working or stop cleaning at night, and he reminds me to relax after a long day. I also try to read or color a little bit before bed each night. Both activities help my mind settle down so I can fall asleep easily.

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    1. That’s great that you’ve worked in daily self-care activities, Brita! I wish I could say that for myself but I’m working on it so that I can sleep better.


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