Phew! Life is getting crazy here this winter! I’m hoping you’re still following along to this series. You can check out the rest of the series by clicking here or go to the ‘A to Z Marriage Series’ page above.
No matter how similar childhoods are each of us is a product of our past environments and experiences, it’s only natural that we have occasional differences.
“What makes a successful marriage isn’t thinking alike, but thinking together” – unknown
On the outside it looks like The Mister and I had similar childhoods but truthfully, we did not. Not even a little bit. Our core values are the same, but since our childhoods were very different we have MANY differences in opinions. But being different doesn’t necessarily mean that one person is right and the other is wrong—or that one way is better than another. Since we’ve realized that, differences in opinion are easier to deal with.
Embracing your differences, instead of letting it bug you is the key to a happy marriage but there are some ways to make your marriage awesome!
Respect the opposite opinion
As a couple, it’s important to work on keeping an open mind within your differing discussions. The good thing about having opposing opinions is that you can make life interesting!
Don’t attack the person, instead attack the issue at hand
It’s SO easy to start attacking the person – I’m sure it’s human nature but nip that thought in your head and instead focus on the actual issue that you disagree with.
Find common ground
Even differing opinions have SOME common ground – there will always be aspects of a discussion that you and your spouse agree on. It’s good to be reassuring in these moments – to point out that there are, indeed, things you do agree on. It’s also important to reassure your spouse that you respect their opinion – since well, it’s sexy!
So, the next time you find yourself having a different opinion from your spouse, embrace it. There’s no need to ever raise your voice or criticize your spouse for their beliefs – it makes for a much more awesome life!
So tell me, do you differ on a lot of issues with your spouse? Do you think it’s okay to have a difference in opinion? Tell me the last thing you had a differing opinion than your spouse!
Next up, patience!