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What Does 29 Look Like?

What Does 29 Look Like-
I’m rounding the corner to 30 unfortunately I am constantly reminded about how young I look. Whenever I get asked for identification while buying wine or even when someone makes a comment about how young I look, I always ask myself, “What DOES 29 look like?” and “Why don’t people think I’m 29?” unfortunately I ponder this a lot. I’m sure people are trying to give me a compliment but ultimately it leaves me confused and offended.

In our society we are sending out mixed messages. On TV we have mid-to-late twenty-something actors playing high school students and we also have them playing their age where they have these executive-type jobs, 2 kids and a white picket fence. So which is it? Is this why people think I’m younger? I am NOT in high school and I definitely don’t have a house or an executive-type job. In media, there are very few REAL photos of what 29 looks like.

Most people tell me, that I’ll LOVE it when I’m older but I am older and I still don’t love being called 18. You know why? I equate(and I feel like a lot of people do too) that 18-year-olds are wild and crazy and immature. I am none of those things and I don’t feel I carry myself in that manner either, so it offends me. It also offends me when people tell me what I should do to make myself look older(it’s never act older, it’s always my looks) like I have to change myself to make other people feel better about themselves and their age. (Just for the record I won’t start smoking and I’ve had my fair share of tanning…I also have found at least a dozen grey hairs!)

Almost 30-year-olds are taken seriously, but unfortunately for me I have to prove myself because most people think I am a dumb young 20-something and that sucks, but it’s taught me to work harder and to prove myself more which has gotten me promotions and more responsibilities in my career.

As a 29-year-old I am now 100% confident in myself. My looks, my abilities and my relationships. I have a great job, wonderful friends and husband, and have never enjoyed life as much as I have in the past couple of years. I would never want to go back to my teen years or even my early twenties. Sure there were fun times, but there was also tons of insecurities and anxiety that I am so happy to leave behind. The late twenties are where it’s at.

So tell me, do people think you are younger or older than your age? Do you agree with me that media sends mixed messages about age?

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6 thoughts on “What Does 29 Look Like?

  1. I have the same dilemma! I’m turning 29 in April and I still get people thinking I’m a college or even a high school student! It does bother me, because it’s stupid they way people always judge your age on your looks. Recently, I was volunteering with a middle school program, and a co-worker introduced me to someone else in her office. The woman, who was probably in her late 40s/early 50s, said “oh, I thought you were one of the students!” You can imagine the rage I felt boiling up inside of me! I am obviously not a middle school student, and that is clearly not a compliment! I agree though, I love being in my late twenties–the closer I get to 30, the more secure I feel with myself and my body. I had wild times back in my early 20s, but I was also scared, anxious, and insecure all the time. Getting older right now has been good to my soul!

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    1. I hate that you’ve had those experiences(me too! I did a placement in a high school and SO many people thought I was a high school student) but I’d be lying if I didn’t say I feel relieved I’m not the only one!

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  2. I have had the opposite problem, people used to always think I was older! But this usually happened after talking to me, it wasn’t based on looks I don’t think. Though I did wonder to myself if it meant I would look 30 when I was 25 😉 so far that isn’t proving to be true. But I do agree with your point about the media! I think it especially messes with our perception of “middle aged” people, because most of the 30-60 year olds you see on TV, in magazines, etc do NOT look like your average run of the mill 30-60 year olds. They’ve had work done, have makeup on, or have personal stylists and shape wear that the rest of us can’t afford. So how do we even know what people of a certain age actually look like if that’s our benchmark?

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  3. that is so nuts that people are actually giving “advice” for how you can look older! what the heck. i am so glad to hear that you are completely confident in who you are and how you look so all those other people can stuff it.

    i am 29 later this month and have no idea if i look the part or not but i will say that probably 1/4 of my hair is gray now!

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    1. People just don’t know how to handle themselves is what it comes down too. It’s like some people have never heard of social rules.

      You definitely look younger than your age, Chelsea.

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