I’m rounding the corner to 30 unfortunately I am constantly reminded about how young I look. Whenever I get asked for identification while buying wine or even when someone makes a comment about how young I look, I always ask myself, “What DOES 29 look like?” and “Why don’t people think I’m 29?” unfortunately I ponder this a lot. I’m sure people are trying to give me a compliment but ultimately it leaves me confused and offended.
In our society we are sending out mixed messages. On TV we have mid-to-late twenty-something actors playing high school students and we also have them playing their age where they have these executive-type jobs, 2 kids and a white picket fence. So which is it? Is this why people think I’m younger? I am NOT in high school and I definitely don’t have a house or an executive-type job. In media, there are very few REAL photos of what 29 looks like.
Most people tell me, that I’ll LOVE it when I’m older but I am older and I still don’t love being called 18. You know why? I equate(and I feel like a lot of people do too) that 18-year-olds are wild and crazy and immature. I am none of those things and I don’t feel I carry myself in that manner either, so it offends me. It also offends me when people tell me what I should do to make myself look older(it’s never act older, it’s always my looks) like I have to change myself to make other people feel better about themselves and their age. (Just for the record I won’t start smoking and I’ve had my fair share of tanning…I also have found at least a dozen grey hairs!)
Almost 30-year-olds are taken seriously, but unfortunately for me I have to prove myself because most people think I am a dumb young 20-something and that sucks, but it’s taught me to work harder and to prove myself more which has gotten me promotions and more responsibilities in my career.
As a 29-year-old I am now 100% confident in myself. My looks, my abilities and my relationships. I have a great job, wonderful friends and husband, and have never enjoyed life as much as I have in the past couple of years. I would never want to go back to my teen years or even my early twenties. Sure there were fun times, but there was also tons of insecurities and anxiety that I am so happy to leave behind. The late twenties are where it’s at.
So tell me, do people think you are younger or older than your age? Do you agree with me that media sends mixed messages about age?