Tomorrow is our one year wedding anniversary, but it’s not like we just met, we’ve been together almost 14 years, so I thought I knew everything there was to be learned about relationships and more specifically ours, but boy! Was I wrong! This year has taught me many lessons about relationships.
Here are my top 5!
1. Make your marriage your top priority.
When myself or The Mister has put work or friends before our marriage our relationship suffered. That is something I would have shrugged off before but if we want to keep our relationship strong we have to keep our priorities straight.
2. You have to continually nurture your relationship.
Relationships are like plants. If you don’t continually water and feed plants they will die. Relationships are the same way. Date nights have always been fun but the realization that these are vital to nurturing our relationship is something I had never realized before we got married.
3. Neither one of us are mind readers. We have to communicate effectively.
Am I the only one who thinks that your husband should be able to figure out when you’re angry or upset about something? One day, he’ll be a mind reader until then we both need to communicate effectively in order to be heard and understood. I’m still learning this one but I’m a slow learner so….
4. We are continually learning about each other.
When you’ve been together a long time you assume you know EVERYTHING about each other, but I was so wrong. I love learning new and quirky things about my husband.
5. Sharing family time together is essential.
Confession: I had never spent Christmas/Christmas Day with The Mister or his parents until last year. Both of us weren’t willing to give up on “our family Christmas” so we never did. We always went our separate ways usually around the 23rd and met back up after Christmas but before New Years Eve. Christmas 2014 was the first time I hadn’t spent Christmas morning with my family. We spent the morning at his parents place opening presents and having Christmas lunch, and then we drove to my parents place and opened presents and had Christmas dinner. It was a wonderful day(and I’m glad I wore my stretchy pants!)
So tell me, what lessons did you/have you learned from your first year of marriage?