When I’m winding down at 9:00 p.m., The Mister is just getting started. He seems to thrive in the night, me not so much. He could have a second life as a Batman for all I know since I am dead to the world by 10:00 p.m. I don’t set an alarm in the morning since I know I’ll be up and for The Mister hits the snooze button at least 3 times before getting up.
Apparently we aren’t the only ones, and apparently it’s also one of the most common causes of relationship stress, but it doesn’t have to be!
Over the years of living together, we’ve figured out what works for us and our different sleep schedules so I thought I would tell you what’s worked for us, in the hopes that it could help you.
Find time for together time.
This has changed over the years but currently our together time is dinner time and an hour or so after. This is where we talk about our day and what’s coming up the next day.
Only quiet activities between the hours of 10:00 p.m., and 7:00 a.m.
It’s just common decency to not run the blender or play a movie too loud when your spouse is sleeping.
Cuddle time doesn’t have to happen before bed
Cuddle time is all about intimacy and sure it happens more naturally if you go to bed at the same time but if you have different sleep patterns that isn’t going to work. Find a time that works well for both of you so that intimacy doesn’t suffer. Currently cuddle time happens before I go to bed. He tucks me in and then spends hours drawing or watching TV.
Avoid stressful conversations late at night.
I won’t be able to sleep if we’ve had an argument and he’ll be stewing about an argument all night so we refrain from discussing how we are going to cure world hunger any time after 8:00 p.m. Does it always happen? No, but that’s life!
While matching up different sleep schedules can be difficult at first, it doesn’t have to be! With a little sacrifice and intent, it can be very easy.
So tell me, do you have a different sleep schedule than your spouse? What are your tips and tricks that you use?