A to Z of a Happy Marriage

Gratitude

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I’m continuing the blog series, “A to Z of a Happy Marriage”. You can check out the rest of the series by clicking here or go to the ‘A to Z Marriage Series’ page.

When couples express gratitude for each other, they feel more loved, accepted and needed and want to reciprocrate that appreciation. Researchers say this cycle is what keeps people in committed relationships.

“Be thankful for what you have and you’ll end up with more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.” – Modern Married

I read somewhere that your brain is hardwired to remember the negative and forget the positive things but that with training it can become positive, so we implemented into our relationship about a year ago, what we call “Gratefuls”. It only takes a couple of minutes and we list all the things we are grateful for that day, not 100% specific to our relationship but all the “positives” that have happened throughout the day. At first it was hard and we only had a couple things on our list but now we can normally get 10 things each.

One of the main reasons being grateful is SO important to a happy marriage is simple. When we feel gratitude or appreciation for our spouse we are respecting its value and truly treasuring how awesome and indespensable it is.

You don’t always have to use “I’m so grateful that…” responses either! Body language, touch, active listening and responding thoughtfully are all ways to show you appreciate your spouse.

Now ask yourself, “Do I show my spouse the appreciation they deserve?” and “How can I show them that I appreciate them today?” Just remember, a little gratitude goes a long way!

So tell me, are you quick to let your spouse know when you are grateful for something they did? What’s the last thing they did that you were grateful for?

Next up, Humour! Don’t miss it on September 17th!

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2 thoughts on “Gratitude

    1. I love that idea, Chelsea! What are the 3 other questions? It’s definitely easy to slip back into negative thinking but always having the reminder of looking for the positives in the back of your mind is super helpful in training your brain.

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