Marriage

I’m Not The Perfect Wife

I'm Not The Perfect Wife

Confession: I assumed that the second I got married I’d turn into the The Perfect Wife. You know the one who can cook a 4 course meal after working an 8-hour day, she keeps the house spotless without help and she never seems to get angry at her husband. I’m not sure where that delusion came from because it definitely isn’t the expectation of The Mister but after 10 months of marriage I’m coming to terms with not being The Perfect Wife.

My confessions:

  • When it’s my night to cook, I usually call it date night and we go out for dinner.
  • The Mister makes my lunch EVERYDAY. We joke and call him the “Lunch Fairy”.
  • If a shirt goes into the laundry inside out, it goes on the hanger inside out.
  • The only time clothing goes into the hamper is when I’m just about to do laundry.
  • I’ve never once ironed The Mister’s clothing.
  • I get angry at the “little things” way more often than I should.

I doubt I’ll become “The Perfect Wife” anytime soon but now that I’m out of the delusional state, I’m hoping to remember the important things about being “The Perfect Wife”. My worth as a wife doesn’t come from how clean my house is or how well I can cook a 4 course meal but how I nurture our relationship and keep it awesome.

As we move through the different stages of life, the things that I need to focus on will change and I’ll need to adjust but I’m glad I’ve come back to my senses and realized what’s of utmost importance and that’s our relationship with each other.

So tell me, did you have the same delusion I did? If not, what delusions did you have about marriage?

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11 thoughts on “I’m Not The Perfect Wife

  1. Wait, you guys alternate the cooking? Ugh, now I feel like I got the short end of the stick, lol, I ALWAYS have to cook 🙂 I’m getting married next week by the way, eep! I don’t expect much will change though. We’ve been together for 14 years.

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  2. I’ve been married for almost 3 years now (WHOA, when did that happen?) and the dynamic of our relationship has changed quite a few times depending on jobs, classes, car situations. If you’re both happy with how things are going, then why change it? But, if you feel like you can be a better wife, don’t stop trying! It’s always fun finding new ways to impress, surprise and bring happiness to your husband! But, if he’s happy, don’t kill yourself trying to be “the perfect wife”. Chances are, you already are in his eyes.

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    1. You make a great point, the dynamic of our relationship HAS changed quite a few times in the course of our relationship and obviously he thinks I’m a great wife, it was just my delusions that made me feel like I wasn’t a great wife.

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  3. I love you’re honesty!! I was much the same, although my delusions were more about how we would feel. I found the first 6 months in particular really difficult because in my head we were going to get married, move to the country and live in a fairy tale forever. I recently wrote about how wrong this was and now I’ve come to terms with it and realised marriage isnt always going to be a fairytale, things are so much better. I wonder if any of this resonates with youhttp://withloveinmind.co.uk/marriage/a-brutually-honest-account-of-the-first-6-months-of-marriage/

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