When I decided to write down why The Mister and I work, I thought of a couple of things right away, but then I decided to Google and see what other people say about why people get together and stay together for the long haul. Unfortunately, what comes up is not a list of why people’s marriage works but how to make marriage work. Then I thought, but isn’t that weird? Shouldn’t you know how to make your relationship work? Isn’t every relationship different that you won’t have the same list as the next couple? My list came together in about 5 seconds after that. You won’t have the same list as The Mister and I, but here’s why we’ve made it through high school, college, adulthood, surgeries, long distance relationships, and everything in between.
Our core values are the same
We value our relationship, along with family and friends in the highest regard. We are extremely loyal, and have had friends for years because loyalty is important to us.
We support each other
When I decided to go back to school and work full-time, I didn’t have a lot of faith in myself that I would finish the program, but I did. He was one of my biggest cheerleaders to get me through those Saturday and evening classes.
We allow each other to be ourselves
If you can’t be yourself with your significant other, then who can you be yourself around? I’m a serious, introverted and quirky person. He’s funny and extroverted. We balance each other out and let each other be ourselves and fully accept our flaws and differences.
We are good at being alone separately
We both have different hobbies and interests, which probably helps us be good at being alone separately. We aren’t a half of one person, we are two people with different personalities, likes and dislikes. Doing things separately makes us appreciate our time together, which obviously takes us to the next reason of why we work!
We also make time for each other
We do errands together on Saturdays, we do a weekly date night, we sit down and watch the Blue Jays games together. There are lots of things we do together to help nurture our relationship.
Laughter is the best medicine
Life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows, but we are always laughing, because we really, really like each other.
The truth is, we work for all of these reasons combined and more. I just can’t imagine my life without him. Not for one second. Really he’s just my favorite person to be around.
What makes your relationship work? Tell me in the comments!